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Jan Schmidt is an intern with Vision 2 Hear. He has been with us since March and been doing a bang up job! Jan will soon join up with his mission team who is coming to America on July 16 and then they will all return to Germany by August 6. We thought we’d get some insights from Jan’s Dad about parenting for some of our Father’s Day focus since Jan just graduated and this is his first trip overseas alone. We wondered what kind of things Jan’s dad thought through as he wrestled with letting his son make such a journey. Here’s what Jan’s dad wrote us:
Father’s Day – Encouragement Of Faith
“Two things shall children get from their parents: Roots and wings.”
This sentence was written down by the great German poet Johann Wolfgang von Goethe in the 19th century. Every father wants to be a good father to his children. I wanted to give my children essential things for their life:
Curiosity for the world and other cultures
Respect for other people
Faith who cares also through hard times
The question that I asked myself again and again: “How do I communicate this in a practical way?” I noticed that an essential answer (which never changed during all the last years) was: “I have to exemplify these things to my son through my own life.”
In his adolescence my son grew away from me. I’ve learned to accept him in his growth and his personality, and to endure his (own and other than my) arguments. I didn’t always succeed in overcoming all this difficulty.
As he grew up, I didn’t want this situation to continue so I learned to spend more time with him. We travelled (with an overnight stay), we went to the cinema and we talked together. We shared life.
I’ve learned from him; I also learned to set him free (I gave him “wings”), to make his own experiences, to realize his own dreams, to live his own life. For that purpose I encourage(d) and support(ed) him; with words, with my action – and with my prayers: because the success of good fatherhood only comes from God Himself; the best father for us all.
God bless you, my son!
21 She will bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins.”
Remember God is moving you by grace to grace.
23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, 24 and are justified by his grace as a gift, through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus, 25 whom God put forward as a propitiation by his blood, to be received by faith. This was to show God’s righteousness, because in his divine forbearance he had passed over former sins. 26 It was to show his righteousness at the present time, so that he might be just and the justifier of the one who has faith in Jesus. Romans 3:23-26
Everyday we live we exist in grace. God withholds his wrath and judgment because of unmerited favor. He looks down on us with love not condemnation.(Romans 8:1) He sees not only who we are now but who we will be one day and remembers the end result is the one that counts. I don’t know how He will do it but I cling to verses like Philippians 1:6 that says “and I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.” I certainly place no hope or trust or faith in myself to complete this “good work”. It is sheerly and simply a gift from God to me.
Jesus didn’t come because it was just a noble thing to do. He didn’t do it to just show He was a “nice God”. He came because we were caught in a sin cycle that would lead us to death and destruction. Jesus came to extend to us the grace of God. This Christmas, may I encourage you to readily accept this gift from God? Let Jesus be your Savior. There’s no need to save yourself. Even though it may be nothing for us to buy ourselves a gift at Christmas, salvation from our sins only comes through Jesus Christ and the grace of God. (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Remember Jesus came to give us grace freely.
As Christmas Eve is here, it is essential to remember that Jesus was born for me; a sinner in need of God’s grace. Yep! I am the reason Jesus came. I stand in need of grace…and so do you. Jesus was God’s gift to us; the embodiment of God and all that is God. Freely given. FREELY. As if “grace” could ever be bought, deserved or earned?
I remember growing up and thinking I had to be “good” for Santa to come and bring me everything I wanted. This thought is not lost on Jesus. Many people, myself included sometimes, feel like we have to do good and be good to earn God’s blessings and favor. Yet this is not the meaning of “grace”. Christmas is not about getting what I deserve or even want. It’s about getting something I could never fully understand and certainly never afford or deserve. Christmas is not about how “good” I can be but rather how truly bad I am and yet how supremely good God is. God doesn’t save me because I am good but because He is. Jesus doesn’t come because of any other reason that we all needed Him as our Savior. He’s the Good One! And if there is anything good in me, it is Christ alone.
The greater I realize my depravity the more I appreciate God’s grace! It’s like a kid a Christmas who loves opening up costly presents but has no idea how much it really costs because he has no concept of money, yet. But when we reach adulthood, all-of-a-sudden, we have a completely different view of cost, don’t we? Opening up gifts and treasuring the thoughts, efforts, and costs have so much more meaning. God’s gift to me is free but I cannot be ignorant of how great His cost! Unwrapping Jesus at Christmas needs to be done with the excitement of a child and the understanding of an adult.
Remember the “Giver”
Another crucial thing to remember is that Jesus is the gift, not just through whom other gifts come. It’s easy to overlook the Giver sometimes, isn’t it? We’ve all done it to our parents at some point, where we’ve taken them for granted, just wanted to “use” them to get things and not really valued or appreciated the kindness and love which motivates them. Don’t make that mistake this year with God. Don’t look to Him for his blessings of grace, mercy, love, generosity etc. alone. Look to Him. Jesus is the gift. He is the blessing. It’s not just the salvation from our sins or the grace we receive; it’s the person of Jesus. Spend some time with Him today. Enjoy His “presence”.
Herod heard people had come to worship…but just not to worship him.
The Pharisees and Scribes were right about a lot… but just not worship.
4 and assembling all the chief priests and scribes of the people, he inquired of them where the Christ was to be born. 5 They told him, “In Bethlehem of Judea, for so it is written by the prophet:
6 “‘And you, O Bethlehem, in the land of Judah,
are by no means least among the rulers of Judah;
for from you shall come a ruler
who will shepherd my people Israel.’”
The Wise Men are called “wise” because of their “worship”.
35 The next day again John was standing with two of his disciples, 36 and he looked at Jesus as he walked by and said, “Behold, the Lamb of God!” 37 The two disciples heard him say this, and they followed Jesus. 38 Jesus turned and saw them following and said to them,“What are you seeking?” John 1:35-38
What do you want?
Is no secret that at Christmastime, this is one of the most asked questions by far. But the question doesn’t find it’s origin with Santa or even parents for that matter. The question actually finds supreme meaning and significance because of Jesus.
John the Baptist is not only one of the main characters centered around Jesus and his birth but he is also related to Jesus. John is Jesus’ cousin. It’s possible that maybe they saw each other during their childhood although no one can really document that. Nonetheless John was brought into this world in a very unique and miraculous way, similar to Jesus in that his birth was announced by an angel, and he was being born into a family that did not expect to have children.
As John grew he understood his purpose and place in life was to point others to Christ. He did that faithfully.
John’s ministry grew and he acquired disciples, student who followed him and took up his teaching. They listened to John’s words and emulated his lifestyle. Then something happened one day. John baptized Jesus, pointed out once again that Jesus was the Lamb of God who had come to redeem mankind, and en encouraged his followers to follow Jesus. Who does that? Who gives their ministry away? What can we learn from John.
Christmas, ministry and life should be about Christ.
It’s easy for any of us to get caught up in the season and forget the person of Christmas. Even in ministry things can change where it becomes about programs…and even helping people as opposed to why we help people, why we have programs and why we are even serving in the first place. John the Baptist reminds us that at Christmas, we need to make sure all we do points to Christ. That every program we have, every song we sing, every gift we give, is out of our hearts of love and gratitude for Christ, who he is and what he has done.
Christmas is about becoming less and having less so others can have more.
It’s easy at Christmas to want more stuff that we don’t need. It’s easy to buy into the accumulation mentality that we need more, more, more. John was such an awesome example of living on less. The man was dressed in camels hair and ate locusts for goodness sake! He wasn’t out buying the finest linens as a cousin and forerunner of Jesus! He was investing his time, energy and money into pointing others to Christ. He lived on less so he could focus more on what was important and that was Christ and the Kingdom of God. John actually encouraged his disciples to follow Jesus diminishing his own ministry to build Jesus’. John was really in it for God and not himself. At Christmas, let’s make sure we are doing things for Jesus and not ourselves.
Christmas is about what you want.
Jesus doesn’t waste any time asking this all important question: what do you want? In all honesty, we come to Santa as kids with a list a mile long of all the toys and items we would like to have at Christmastime. That list is not that dissimilar to lists we bring to God as well. We treat God as a “ Santa” all year long making requests that are selfish and consumeristic in nature. What is surprising is that God allows us to come to him with any and all requests! But he never promises to just give us everything we want. Nonetheless Jesus asks these new disciples what they want. That question goes much deeper than just a new camel or sandles.
Is it possible that this Christmas Jesus could be asking us all that same question? For those who are really willing to search their hearts and souls, the answers you find will be very revealing. Deep down, we want love, peace, hope, joy, and all the things that Christ coming actually brings. What is great is that Jesus the Messiah is willing to give us these very things when we come to him and push aside the junk that we don’t really need and the stuff that we don’t really want and realize in the deepest part of our being will never satisfy. This Christmas, what is it that you want? Santa, nor anything other than Jesus can actually promise you that this Christmas.
6 And while they were there, the time came for her to give birth. 7 And she gave birth to her firstborn son and wrapped him in swaddling cloths and laid him in a manger, because there was no place for them in the inn. Luke 2:6-7
How does something like this happen? Angels travel to announce to an unsuspecting couple that isn’t even married yet: “you’re gonna have a baby”. This couple has to start their travel back to Joseph’s hometown because of a census order. As they “happen” to be traveling back, her time comes to give birth. I understand that there are several prophecies centered around the birth of Jesus, along with a number of miracles. However, it strikes me that God would go to such extreme measures to land this “surprise” on Mary and Joseph, work with extreme care to organize the census so that the baby could be born in Bethlehem but then seemingly not orchestrate for there to be “room in the inn”.
Was this a surprise to God? Absolutely not! Perhaps a surprise to Mary and Joseph, although they did not balk at the idea of Jesus being born in the stable. But then again, the baby’s coming so it’s best to just get the mother as comfortable as possible as soon as possible.
This surprise “no vacancy” sign really is as planned as anything else surrounding the birth of Jesus. Here are a couple of things to consider.
No room in the inn showed Jesus’ connection with the poor.
He wasn’t born in a fancy hospital or ritzy hotel. He was born in a lowly manger…with a stable full of animals. This was all part of God’s plan. From the beginning of his earthly existence, Jesus was able to identify with the poor. He gave up the riches of heaven to come and live among us. It was for our sakes that he became poor. (2 Corinthians 8:9). No matter what our status, Jesus can identify with us. Jesus never “owned” a home during his time on earth. In Luke 9:58 Jesus says he has no place to lay his head, meaning that once again he would be pulling up a rock for a pillow under the open skies. Since some mangers are stone maybe Jesus was conditioned to having a stone for a bed?
No room in the inn showed Jesus’ connection with Calvary.
Jesus’ life was destined for certain things. Being born in a manger was nothing compared to dying on the cross. Yet a simple thing like being born in a manger helps us remember that it is even in the smallest of details of our lives, God is in control. Just as the “no vacancy” sign was part of God’s plan so was Calvary. The sign went up that said no room, not even for the Christ Child, was similar to the one that went on the cross which read “this is the King of the Jews”. Jesus leaves this world much as he came, humble, poor, wrapped in a cloth. Since some mangers are wood, and Joseph was a carpenter maybe Jesus was conditioned for the cross?
No room in the inn symbolizes our lives.
We are not unlike the innkeeper at all. Perhaps he was just minding his own business. He could have been a very gentle and honest business man, operating at full capacity, meaning no harm just stating a fact: there are no rooms available. We find ourselves being good-well meaning people, whose lives get crowded with all kinds of “guests”. We get busy. Our lives get over scheduled and God gets pushed out of his slot time and time again. Maybe this Christmas season it’s time to “prepare him room”? Jesus didn’t come to the planet to be born and die for no reason. He came and did all of this so that he could have an intimate personal relationship with each one of us. Since Jesus had no place to call his own, maybe your heart can be his home?