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Jan Schmidt is an intern with Vision 2 Hear. He has been with us since March and been doing a bang up job! Jan will soon join up with his mission team who is coming to America on July 16 and then they will all return to Germany by August 6. We thought we’d get some insights from Jan’s Dad about parenting for some of our Father’s Day focus since Jan just graduated and this is his first trip overseas alone. We wondered what kind of things Jan’s dad thought through as he wrestled with letting his son make such a journey. Here’s what Jan’s dad wrote us:
Father’s Day – Encouragement Of Faith
“Two things shall children get from their parents: Roots and wings.”
This sentence was written down by the great German poet Johann Wolfgang von Goethe in the 19th century. Every father wants to be a good father to his children. I wanted to give my children essential things for their life:
Curiosity for the world and other cultures
Respect for other people
Faith who cares also through hard times
The question that I asked myself again and again: “How do I communicate this in a practical way?” I noticed that an essential answer (which never changed during all the last years) was: “I have to exemplify these things to my son through my own life.”
In his adolescence my son grew away from me. I’ve learned to accept him in his growth and his personality, and to endure his (own and other than my) arguments. I didn’t always succeed in overcoming all this difficulty.
As he grew up, I didn’t want this situation to continue so I learned to spend more time with him. We travelled (with an overnight stay), we went to the cinema and we talked together. We shared life.
I’ve learned from him; I also learned to set him free (I gave him “wings”), to make his own experiences, to realize his own dreams, to live his own life. For that purpose I encourage(d) and support(ed) him; with words, with my action – and with my prayers: because the success of good fatherhood only comes from God Himself; the best father for us all.
God bless you, my son!
21 She will bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins.”
Remember God is moving you by grace to grace.
23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, 24 and are justified by his grace as a gift, through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus, 25 whom God put forward as a propitiation by his blood, to be received by faith. This was to show God’s righteousness, because in his divine forbearance he had passed over former sins. 26 It was to show his righteousness at the present time, so that he might be just and the justifier of the one who has faith in Jesus. Romans 3:23-26
Everyday we live we exist in grace. God withholds his wrath and judgment because of unmerited favor. He looks down on us with love not condemnation.(Romans 8:1) He sees not only who we are now but who we will be one day and remembers the end result is the one that counts. I don’t know how He will do it but I cling to verses like Philippians 1:6 that says “and I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.” I certainly place no hope or trust or faith in myself to complete this “good work”. It is sheerly and simply a gift from God to me.
Jesus didn’t come because it was just a noble thing to do. He didn’t do it to just show He was a “nice God”. He came because we were caught in a sin cycle that would lead us to death and destruction. Jesus came to extend to us the grace of God. This Christmas, may I encourage you to readily accept this gift from God? Let Jesus be your Savior. There’s no need to save yourself. Even though it may be nothing for us to buy ourselves a gift at Christmas, salvation from our sins only comes through Jesus Christ and the grace of God. (Ephesians 2:8-9)
Remember Jesus came to give us grace freely.
As Christmas Eve is here, it is essential to remember that Jesus was born for me; a sinner in need of God’s grace. Yep! I am the reason Jesus came. I stand in need of grace…and so do you. Jesus was God’s gift to us; the embodiment of God and all that is God. Freely given. FREELY. As if “grace” could ever be bought, deserved or earned?
I remember growing up and thinking I had to be “good” for Santa to come and bring me everything I wanted. This thought is not lost on Jesus. Many people, myself included sometimes, feel like we have to do good and be good to earn God’s blessings and favor. Yet this is not the meaning of “grace”. Christmas is not about getting what I deserve or even want. It’s about getting something I could never fully understand and certainly never afford or deserve. Christmas is not about how “good” I can be but rather how truly bad I am and yet how supremely good God is. God doesn’t save me because I am good but because He is. Jesus doesn’t come because of any other reason that we all needed Him as our Savior. He’s the Good One! And if there is anything good in me, it is Christ alone.
The greater I realize my depravity the more I appreciate God’s grace! It’s like a kid a Christmas who loves opening up costly presents but has no idea how much it really costs because he has no concept of money, yet. But when we reach adulthood, all-of-a-sudden, we have a completely different view of cost, don’t we? Opening up gifts and treasuring the thoughts, efforts, and costs have so much more meaning. God’s gift to me is free but I cannot be ignorant of how great His cost! Unwrapping Jesus at Christmas needs to be done with the excitement of a child and the understanding of an adult.
Remember the “Giver”
Another crucial thing to remember is that Jesus is the gift, not just through whom other gifts come. It’s easy to overlook the Giver sometimes, isn’t it? We’ve all done it to our parents at some point, where we’ve taken them for granted, just wanted to “use” them to get things and not really valued or appreciated the kindness and love which motivates them. Don’t make that mistake this year with God. Don’t look to Him for his blessings of grace, mercy, love, generosity etc. alone. Look to Him. Jesus is the gift. He is the blessing. It’s not just the salvation from our sins or the grace we receive; it’s the person of Jesus. Spend some time with Him today. Enjoy His “presence”.
Herod heard people had come to worship…but just not to worship him.
The Pharisees and Scribes were right about a lot… but just not worship.
4 and assembling all the chief priests and scribes of the people, he inquired of them where the Christ was to be born. 5 They told him, “In Bethlehem of Judea, for so it is written by the prophet:
6 “‘And you, O Bethlehem, in the land of Judah,
are by no means least among the rulers of Judah;
for from you shall come a ruler
who will shepherd my people Israel.’”
The Wise Men are called “wise” because of their “worship”.
35 The next day again John was standing with two of his disciples, 36 and he looked at Jesus as he walked by and said, “Behold, the Lamb of God!” 37 The two disciples heard him say this, and they followed Jesus. 38 Jesus turned and saw them following and said to them,“What are you seeking?” John 1:35-38
What do you want?
Is no secret that at Christmastime, this is one of the most asked questions by far. But the question doesn’t find it’s origin with Santa or even parents for that matter. The question actually finds supreme meaning and significance because of Jesus.
John the Baptist is not only one of the main characters centered around Jesus and his birth but he is also related to Jesus. John is Jesus’ cousin. It’s possible that maybe they saw each other during their childhood although no one can really document that. Nonetheless John was brought into this world in a very unique and miraculous way, similar to Jesus in that his birth was announced by an angel, and he was being born into a family that did not expect to have children.
As John grew he understood his purpose and place in life was to point others to Christ. He did that faithfully.
John’s ministry grew and he acquired disciples, student who followed him and took up his teaching. They listened to John’s words and emulated his lifestyle. Then something happened one day. John baptized Jesus, pointed out once again that Jesus was the Lamb of God who had come to redeem mankind, and en encouraged his followers to follow Jesus. Who does that? Who gives their ministry away? What can we learn from John.
Christmas, ministry and life should be about Christ.
It’s easy for any of us to get caught up in the season and forget the person of Christmas. Even in ministry things can change where it becomes about programs…and even helping people as opposed to why we help people, why we have programs and why we are even serving in the first place. John the Baptist reminds us that at Christmas, we need to make sure all we do points to Christ. That every program we have, every song we sing, every gift we give, is out of our hearts of love and gratitude for Christ, who he is and what he has done.
Christmas is about becoming less and having less so others can have more.
It’s easy at Christmas to want more stuff that we don’t need. It’s easy to buy into the accumulation mentality that we need more, more, more. John was such an awesome example of living on less. The man was dressed in camels hair and ate locusts for goodness sake! He wasn’t out buying the finest linens as a cousin and forerunner of Jesus! He was investing his time, energy and money into pointing others to Christ. He lived on less so he could focus more on what was important and that was Christ and the Kingdom of God. John actually encouraged his disciples to follow Jesus diminishing his own ministry to build Jesus’. John was really in it for God and not himself. At Christmas, let’s make sure we are doing things for Jesus and not ourselves.
Christmas is about what you want.
Jesus doesn’t waste any time asking this all important question: what do you want? In all honesty, we come to Santa as kids with a list a mile long of all the toys and items we would like to have at Christmastime. That list is not that dissimilar to lists we bring to God as well. We treat God as a “ Santa” all year long making requests that are selfish and consumeristic in nature. What is surprising is that God allows us to come to him with any and all requests! But he never promises to just give us everything we want. Nonetheless Jesus asks these new disciples what they want. That question goes much deeper than just a new camel or sandles.
Is it possible that this Christmas Jesus could be asking us all that same question? For those who are really willing to search their hearts and souls, the answers you find will be very revealing. Deep down, we want love, peace, hope, joy, and all the things that Christ coming actually brings. What is great is that Jesus the Messiah is willing to give us these very things when we come to him and push aside the junk that we don’t really need and the stuff that we don’t really want and realize in the deepest part of our being will never satisfy. This Christmas, what is it that you want? Santa, nor anything other than Jesus can actually promise you that this Christmas.
6 And while they were there, the time came for her to give birth. 7 And she gave birth to her firstborn son and wrapped him in swaddling cloths and laid him in a manger, because there was no place for them in the inn. Luke 2:6-7
How does something like this happen? Angels travel to announce to an unsuspecting couple that isn’t even married yet: “you’re gonna have a baby”. This couple has to start their travel back to Joseph’s hometown because of a census order. As they “happen” to be traveling back, her time comes to give birth. I understand that there are several prophecies centered around the birth of Jesus, along with a number of miracles. However, it strikes me that God would go to such extreme measures to land this “surprise” on Mary and Joseph, work with extreme care to organize the census so that the baby could be born in Bethlehem but then seemingly not orchestrate for there to be “room in the inn”.
Was this a surprise to God? Absolutely not! Perhaps a surprise to Mary and Joseph, although they did not balk at the idea of Jesus being born in the stable. But then again, the baby’s coming so it’s best to just get the mother as comfortable as possible as soon as possible.
This surprise “no vacancy” sign really is as planned as anything else surrounding the birth of Jesus. Here are a couple of things to consider.
No room in the inn showed Jesus’ connection with the poor.
He wasn’t born in a fancy hospital or ritzy hotel. He was born in a lowly manger…with a stable full of animals. This was all part of God’s plan. From the beginning of his earthly existence, Jesus was able to identify with the poor. He gave up the riches of heaven to come and live among us. It was for our sakes that he became poor. (2 Corinthians 8:9). No matter what our status, Jesus can identify with us. Jesus never “owned” a home during his time on earth. In Luke 9:58 Jesus says he has no place to lay his head, meaning that once again he would be pulling up a rock for a pillow under the open skies. Since some mangers are stone maybe Jesus was conditioned to having a stone for a bed?
No room in the inn showed Jesus’ connection with Calvary.
Jesus’ life was destined for certain things. Being born in a manger was nothing compared to dying on the cross. Yet a simple thing like being born in a manger helps us remember that it is even in the smallest of details of our lives, God is in control. Just as the “no vacancy” sign was part of God’s plan so was Calvary. The sign went up that said no room, not even for the Christ Child, was similar to the one that went on the cross which read “this is the King of the Jews”. Jesus leaves this world much as he came, humble, poor, wrapped in a cloth. Since some mangers are wood, and Joseph was a carpenter maybe Jesus was conditioned for the cross?
No room in the inn symbolizes our lives.
We are not unlike the innkeeper at all. Perhaps he was just minding his own business. He could have been a very gentle and honest business man, operating at full capacity, meaning no harm just stating a fact: there are no rooms available. We find ourselves being good-well meaning people, whose lives get crowded with all kinds of “guests”. We get busy. Our lives get over scheduled and God gets pushed out of his slot time and time again. Maybe this Christmas season it’s time to “prepare him room”? Jesus didn’t come to the planet to be born and die for no reason. He came and did all of this so that he could have an intimate personal relationship with each one of us. Since Jesus had no place to call his own, maybe your heart can be his home?
16And he will turn many of the children of Israel to the Lord their God,17and he will go before him in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the disobedient to the wisdom of the just, to make ready for the Lord a people prepared.”
Advent is a time to prepare the way for The Lord. In the same manner that John The Baptist was the forerunner, Advent serves that purpose as we approach Christmas each year. With 12 days left to go before Christmas, how do you need to prepare to celebrate and worship the newborn King? Here are a couple of suggestions to consider.
Prepare Him room.
7 and she gave birth to her firstborn, a son. She wrapped him in cloths and placed him in a manger, because there was no guest room available for them. Luke 2:7 NIV
When Mary and Joseph were traveling, time came for her to give birth but they found no room for themselves in the inn. How horrible to have been the innkeeper, realizing at some point that there was no more room for the mother to give birth but a lowly stable?
How much room are we giving to Christ this Christmas? Is our heart more like a stable for Christ or a home? How would you best prepare for Christ to take up residence in you? How can you prepare your life as worship for the King?
Prepare the way.
23 John replied in the words of Isaiah the prophet, “I am the voice of one calling in the wilderness, ‘Make straight the way for the Lord.’” John 1:23 NIV
3 A voice of one calling:
“In the wilderness prepare
the way for the Lord;
make straight in the desert
a highway for our God.
4 Every valley shall be raised up,
every mountain and hill made low;
the rough ground shall become level,
the rugged places a plain.
5 And the glory of the Lord will be revealed,
and all people will see it together.
For the mouth of the Lord has spoken.” Isaiah 40:3-5
When John the Baptist came onto the scene, he was preaching this message: prepare the way of The Lord. Every valley was to be raised and every mountain leveled so as to give the King a straight path to walk and travel. What needs to be leveled in our oaths today? What needs to be raised up? What is obstructing the King’s path to our hearts and lives? Are we somehow preventing others from finding their way to Jesus this Christmas?
Prepare a people.
John the Baptist was used to bring people together and ready them for the message and the salvation of Jesus. He diverted attention off himself to Christ as evidenced in his preaching and his life, (John 3:30). He was used as an example of a godly leader, radical preacher, spiritual family member and ministry partner of Christ. God used him greatly to proclaim and promote the coming of Christ. How can God use you this Christmas season? As a godly leader? Radical preacher? Spiritual family member? Ministry partner? Let God be glorified through you this Advent season. Prepare yourself and others for the coming of The Lord!
18 Now the birth of Jesus Christ took place in this way. When his mother Mary had been betrothed to Joseph, before they came together she was found to be with child from the Holy Spirit. 19 And her husband Joseph, being a just man and unwilling to put her to shame, resolved to divorce her quietly. 20 But as he considered these things, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying, “Joseph, son of David, do not fear to take Mary as your wife, for that which is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. 21 She will bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins.” 22 All this took place to fulfill what the Lord had spoken by the prophet:
23 “Behold, the virgin shall conceive and bear a son,
and they shall call his name Immanuel”
(which means, God with us). Matthew 1:23
Surrounding Jesus’ birth there are many surprises and miracles. Many prophecies are fulfilled and promises of God kept because of the arrival of the Christ Child. Consider these surprises in relationships that occurred.
A Surprise In Relationship with Mary and Joseph.
There is no doubt that Joseph felt cheated and used. He had to wrestle with a ton of emotions and questions upon hearing that his fiancee’ is expecting a baby and he is not the father! But Joseph was a good and nobel man and did not want to embarrass Mary. Moreover he could have publicly shamed her and had her stoned, which was in his right to do but instead, he was looking for a way to quietly dismiss her. This surprise was an act of true love from Joseph to Mary. He sincerely loved her by trying to care for her emotionally and physically before he really understood all that was happening. If Mary ever had a wonder if Joseph loved her, she had no doubt now. Sometimes it is during the most trying of times that love can surprise you. Their relationship was evidently much deeper than anything physical. The unexpected pregnancy lead to the wonderful surprise of a love that was deeper than doubt, speculation, and fear. How are your relationships? When surprises pop up, how does your relationship with your spouse hold up? Are you fighting for your “rights”? Are you seeking what’s best for your spouse? Why not let love deepen and surprise everyone who’s watching, waiting for you to respond. Surprise them with your godly relationship.
A Surprise in Relationship with Mary and God.
Mary didn’t choose this herself. In fact, if she had been offered the choice, she may have given any number of excuses:
“I’m too young”
“I’m about to be married”
“Isn’t there someone else?”
“I have my whole life ahead of me…can this wait a little while longer?”
Yet God chose her, at her age, with her situation, at this time. She’s just a simple teenage girl…no mothering “experience”, yet qualified enough for God to give her the job. Perhaps God looks at us much differently than we look at ourselves? Maybe God’s relationship with us should be looked at as God’ choosing us, awaiting us to choose Him back? At the end of her conversation with the angel, Mary submits to God’s choice of her. She surrenders her life and will to obedience and acceptance of all that God wants to do with her. She exemplifies what we should be like in our relationship with God. Has God chosen you for something that seems bigger than you? What excuses have you been giving to God lately? How would your relationship to others change if you had this kind of open full acceptance of God’s choosing in your life?
A Surprise in Relationship With God and Man.
Early in the Garden of Eden we are told that God was walking in the cool of the day with earth’s first created beings. However, after the Fall, God doesn’t walk with mankind in this way again…until now. The title given to Jesus is Immanuel (Emmanuel as some may write it). This name is significant because now God is walking, breathing and in human form among his creation once again. This is HUGE for the entire human race. God pulls a surprise on us that no one would have ever expected. Sure there were many prophecies about the coming Messiah. For hundreds of years, prophets, priests, kings, wisemen, and even common people longed for and looked for the arrival of the King. It’s just no one expected Him to come as a baby in a manger.
God showed up in a way that changed everything. And still affects everything to this day. Mankind now not only has a God in Heaven but one who walked on earth. Because of this relationship, God can say He knows what we are going through. He understands what it’s like to feel hunger, sadness, pain, sorrow, suffering, along with the myriad of other emotions we deal with on a daily basis. Now that God has surprised us in coming to form a new way of relating to us, we never have to fear being far from Him again. Thanks be to God for His unspeakable gift! Do you feel close to God today? Why or why not? Does your relationship with God ever change? What does it mean to you that God is with you? How does having a relationship with God change your outlook on life?
And Mary said,
“My soul magnifies the Lord,
and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior,
for he has looked on the humble estate of his servant.
For behold, from now on all generations will call me blessed;
for he who is mighty has done great things for me,
and holy is his name.
And his mercy is for those who fear him
from generation to generation.
He has shown strength with his arm;
he has scattered the proud in the thoughts of their hearts;
he has brought down the mighty from their thrones
and exalted those of humble estate;
he has filled the hungry with good things,
and the rich he has sent away empty.
He has helped his servant Israel,
in remembrance of his mercy,
as he spoke to our fathers,
to Abraham and to his offspring forever.”
The news of her being chosen to bear the Christ Child leads her ask many questions. To be sure she was filled with wonder and awe, prayers and praise as she journeyed to visit Elisabeth. Upon her arrival and hearing her cousin’s proclamation, Mary cannot contain herself any longer. She must sing praise. She must proclaim for herself the goodness of God. As Mary bursts into a surprise song, there are a few things we are challenged to remember from her example in this passage.
The song is from her soul.
There is no doubt that music is catchy. Rhythms and beats are constructed by artists to make lyrics more memorable. But this is not a song that has been passed down through the ages. This is a song that rose up from the depths of her soul. This was a song that had never been sung before. This was a song that only Mary could sing. This was her anthem, her song of praise and adoration. This was her proclamation of God’s goodness not only to her but all people. Her song was full of soul, not just head-knowledge. She was not only tapping her foot but tapped into her deepest innermost being. When you sing praise to God, where does it come from? Is it just memorized words? Do you ever sing from your soul?
The song is of her Savior.
I’m not knocking music of today but let’s be honest about what we listen to and sing about. Much of it is self-centered. Sure, Jesus is mentioned but the crux of what it is about is “us”, not God. This song of Mary is Jesus centered and her praise is about what He will do. Her song includes what God has done but not just by “choosing her” but for all people. My personal challenge is to make sure that I sing songs that don’t just make me feel good about God loving me but about what God has done and is doing around the world. Soul songs include praise and adoration of God, elevating God to His proper place in our lives.
The song flows from knowledge of scripture.
Her song has images from history past. She knows her scriptures and alludes to them in her song speaking of “generation to generation”, and “Abraham”. How often are our songs replete of God’s word and scripture? As we sing, we should remember the things God has done and our songs should be able to be authenticated with the Word of God.
The song is one anchored in service.
In Mary’s song she refers to herself as a “servant” and to Israel as “servant”. This surprise song that erupts from her soul is one that is anchored solidly in her full willingness to serve and be of service to her God. At Christmas this year, may the songs we sing, the works that we do, be out of and from a heart that is completely abandoned to service for our God. May we truly live the songs we sing.