The Facebook account has now been deleted. But so have two teenage lives. With the click of a mouse and the click of a trigger, statuses of lives now read: deleted.
On December 30, T.J. Lane wrote on his Facebook what may be considered a prelude to yesterday’s tragic event, which is the worst violence with a gun in 11 months. TJ wrote:
“I am death. And you have always been the sod. So repulsive and so odd.”
“Feel death, not just mocking you. Not just stalking you, but inside of you. Wriggle and writhe. Feel smaller beneath my might…Die all of you.”
Somewhat lyrical but with certain intention, TJ posted this with no one even taking much notice. How can we be missing these things? Do we feel that powerless? Are we that numb? Are we really that apathetic?
Sure, I understand how messy getting involved can become…but more messy than what we are dealing with now after this tragedy? We are missing all the wrong things! 2 kids are dead. Another kid will be missed now in many other ways. Thousands of other kids had their lives dramatically and drastically changed yesterday. This goes way beyond a missing Facebook page…we are talking about missing real faces….missing real lives!
As a common rule, we should never dismiss or play off talk that includes harming or killing another. It is not unusual for people who are hurting to want to hurt others. It is not uncommon for people who have committed such crimes as TJ allegedly did yesterday, to give some kind of warning and prelude to the event. It is incumbent for us to pay attention to these things!There are all kinds of signals and warnings before these things happen, if we would just pay attention. We cannot afford to miss them. If we do, as in this case, we will be missing much, much more.
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